Little miss fussy today she is... Toast with Bread was provided for breakfast but she just nipple 1/4 of it and then pretty much don't want it. Fine.. offered some komato (smaller tomato which skin is brownish greenish).. she sucked the juice and nibble a bit and pretty much squash on her hands and repetitively ask her hands to be cleaned and back in nibbling her food. Maybe she isn't hungry? Oh well, as experts advice if it is breakfast time then offer the food and if she don't want to eat it let her know the meaning of "hungry" till the next meal. breakfast: 9.30am.
off we went out for a walk seeing it is a sunny day and little miss fussy decided she wants to eat but i was at a chinese doctor waiting for my turn for consultation. Well it wasn't planned.. i just walk pass and thinking to go check out some medical condition of mine. What you know?! She wants to eat! giving me a hand sign that she wants to eat. hmm i could give her crackers but that would spoil lunch appetite so i hang on till we got home and served her lunch. Lunch: 12.30pm cereal. ohhh and she rejected asking for PUFFS!! As she didn't have much breakfast so i gave in to her and added puffs (aka SNACK in another term) into her cereal and she ate the bowl of cereal.
Next missy fussy refused to have her afternoon nap.. well she did wake at 9 am which why i thought probraly 1.30pm is reasonable for her to sleep. Ohhh she didn't think so and ended up I put her in playpen where she wailed and cried and still didn't want to sleep. Guess after dramatic crying for 10 mins at least she sulk and sulk till she went down..
As being a stay at home mom, after reading the above you may kinda understand what i am going through or you may not. Nevertheless, there are times when you really get so frustrated that you just want to dump your kid somewhere and let them cry till they are satisfied. However, with asian chinese belief that would cause "wind" aka colic as they suck in air.. logically isn't it? But there is so much a person can take moreover a dog. Poor crystal was so scared of her crying and wailing that she was shivering!!! Tell me about it.. i felt so sad so see crystal in that state due to a misbehaving toodler.
There are many articles that kids get beaten up or abuse by young mothers. I don't think myself as a young mother.. i do hit the 30 mark but then the anger in me can pretty much compare to a 18 year old young mom. When there is no one to turn to with a wailing toodler what do you do ? Call you husband who is at work? No it won't help and instead you may get told off. Call your parents who are miles miles away? No it is not logical. Pray to God? Ok it does sound workable but come on be realistic, god ain't gonna stop a crying or fussy toddler. It is only you who can do the job so damm it...
Off we get out butt up, Take a deep breath, Slowly breath out. Walk to your toodler. And speak in a soft tone: <name>, please stop crying. I have already fed you etc etc and it is now time to xxxx please be understanding and don't cry anymore. Mummy is not feeling well either. Thhen, Hold on to your toodler, give her a gentle pat in the back.
It does work sometimes whereas a big shout: What do you want??! You driving me crazy.. Arghhh may backfire more. As all is said everyone have their own way of handling their child. Nevertheless it may seem i am giving a soft approach now but i think i am a supporter for the "cane method" When she is old enough, approx 4 years old and gets over my head , i would definitely introduce the "cane"~~ hmm but where to find one in Melbourne Australia??! oh well, guess it owuld be under my wish list then lolz lolz
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