What To Expect when you are Pregnant - Part 1

The big topic currently it seems as recently a Few friends asked me questions about pregnancy, just to declare I am no expert with only one pregnancy but think it would be good to write it down my expereicne so that other can share on my version of "What To Expect when you are Pregnant" 

After many attempts of getting pregnant, the moment you missed your period/menses or see a 2 line from the pregnancy kit you would be in for a emotional ride. You would wonder, am i pregnant as you are few days late or feeling different for eg having craving etc etc... and the moment you use the pregnant kit and it is showing 2 lines - you would like to go to a Gynae to confirm your pregnancy and to only get told, ohh its too early (if you only missed your menses for a week), go to your normal doctor or GP and get tested - which is the same as what you just did at your home with a $10 kit. However as procedure you need to get to the GP to do a test to "confirm".  1) Go GP to do a urine test to confirm 

Once you done the test as the GP doctor clinic, congrats where given by the doc, off you go home feeling anxious to tell the whole world. Ahhhh here it is. As Asian, we believe first trimester is a crucial period where the baby is very "sensitive" and wish not to be announce.  In plain simple words meaning if you annouce to the whole world, the baby is sensitive and you may lose your baby. In scientific words, as 1st trimester the embroy (aka your baby) is still fraqile and many aspect can cause miscarriage, with that, by not telling a lot of people, and if you do miscarriage, you will be easier of emotinally and won't feel needle pricking your heart each time someone ask you .. hows your baby when you have lost it. Many believe in it and would tend to keep low profile for this stage, but seriously, you need to tell someone. Off you tell your parents and tell them not to annouce.  Some parents would know what to do but if your parents are modern or westernise, then remind them. As you won't know whether your partner side is superstitous and you won't want to start a fight over this. 2) Share your good news with your parents but remind them to keep quiet. 

If you are working, from workplace law i think you need to inform your direct manager but each country has it own regulations. So check out whats in place in the coutnry you reside to ensure you are covered. I personally think it is good to tell early so that if you feel sick or anything, at least it is understood easier. 3) Inform your direct manager 


Join a forum. Yeah maybe you are not such a person, but you will meet new friends that would best understand every stage of your next 9 months of pregnancy. Discussion on when to have scan and checks, or even best buys going on in town and even food individual takes. Of course, you may have real friends that you have known for ages which would too share their experience with you but somehow friends you meet on baby websites which we call "groups" or "forum" is different. You don't need to be a extrovert to join one, you can just be a silent reader but in time you will definitely participate in the conversations that is going on and find that they who you totally do not know from school or work may become you closest friends that you will "chat" and sms throughout the days. 4) Join a Baby forum/website. 


Well you would find it hard to ask for gynae recommendation if you are worried being known of your pregnancy but don't worry, most asian moms know of the "belief" and would ask you indirectly whether you are Pregnant. 5) Start to ask around or even search online for gynaes  (For Singapore only - am not to sure on how the system goes for in Australia but this would be one of the thing I would definitely look into as it seems from what i know it is confusing here.. there are gynae, obstetrician and mid wife which help you to deliver your baby in australia ... confusing.....)


Alright thats it for Part 1 - if you just found out you pregnant ~~ congratulations~~